Retirement Planning for Couples: How to Plan to Be So Happy Together
Planning for retirement as a couple is a team sport that takes open communication, thoughtful planning and a solid financial strategy.
Retirement planning can feel overwhelming, and when you’re doing it as a couple, it’s even more important to be on the same page. But retirement isn’t just about hitting a financial milestone — it’s about creating a shared vision for your future together.
Whether you’ve been partners for decades or are a new couple, building a retirement plan as a team takes open communication, thoughtful planning and a solid financial strategy.
Here’s how to prepare for this exciting next chapter of life — together.
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1. Align your visions for retirement
Before diving into the numbers, take some time to dream together. What does an ideal retirement look like for each of you?
Consider:
- Where you’ll live. Will you stay put, downsize or relocate to a dream destination?
- How you’ll spend your time. Do you see yourselves traveling, picking up new hobbies or focusing on family?
- Work in retirement. Will one or both of you work part time, start a passion project or fully retire?
It’s normal for couples to have different visions, so use this conversation as a way to find common ground and compromise where needed.
2. Understand your combined finances
A solid retirement plan starts with a clear picture of your financial standing as a couple. Together, review:
- Income sources. Social Security, pensions, 401(k)s, IRAs, investment income or rental properties
- Debt. Mortgages, credit cards, student loans. What needs to be paid off before retirement?
- Savings and investments. Take stock of all accounts, including brokerage accounts and health savings accounts (HSAs)
Knowing where you stand financially will help you create a realistic road map for retirement.
3. Set a joint retirement budget
Your spending habits will likely change in retirement. Together, outline a budget that covers:
- Daily expenses. Housing, groceries, utilities
- Health care costs. Insurance premiums, medical bills, prescriptions
- Fun and leisure. Travel, hobbies, dining out, entertainment
- Emergency cushion. Unexpected expenses happen, so build in a buffer
A well-planned budget helps ensure your retirement lifestyle is both enjoyable and sustainable.
4. Maximize Social Security benefits
Social Security will be a key income source, and as a couple, you can strategize to maximize your benefits:
- Timing matters. Delaying benefits past your full retirement age can increase monthly payouts
- Spousal benefits. If one partner earned significantly more, the other may qualify for higher benefits based on their spouse’s earnings
A financial adviser can help determine the best Social Security claiming strategy for your situation.
5. Coordinate retirement account withdrawals
If you’ve both been saving in separate retirement accounts, have a plan for how and when to withdraw funds. Consider:
- Required minimum distributions. Traditional IRAs and 401(k)s require RMD withdrawals starting at a certain age
- Tax efficiency. Timing withdrawals strategically can minimize taxes
- Investment growth. Keeping funds invested longer in certain accounts can maximize growth
A smart withdrawal strategy helps stretch your retirement savings further.
6. Plan for health care and long-term care
Health care can be one of the biggest expenses in retirement, so planning ahead is essential:
- Medicare. Know what’s covered and consider supplemental insurance
- Long-term care insurance. Explore coverage for potential nursing home or in-home care needs
- HSAs. If you’re still working (and your insurance plan qualifies), contribute to an HSA for tax-advantaged medical savings
Being proactive about health care planning can help prevent financial stress later.
7. Talk about estate planning
Estate planning ensures that your wishes are carried out and your assets are passed down efficiently. As a couple, make sure you have:
- Wills and trusts. Clearly outline how your assets will be distributed
- Updated beneficiary designations. Ensure retirement accounts and life insurance policies reflect your current wishes
- Powers of attorney. Assign someone to make financial and health care decisions if either of you becomes incapacitated
Having a solid estate plan brings peace of mind for both of you.
8. Check in regularly
Retirement planning isn’t a one-time conversation. Schedule regular check-ins to revisit your financial plan and make adjustments as needed. Life circumstances change, and staying flexible ensures you’re always on track.
9. Work with a financial adviser
Retirement planning as a couple can be complex, but you don’t have to figure it out alone. A financial adviser can provide personalized guidance, help you spot potential blind spots and ensure your retirement plan aligns with your goals.
Final thoughts
Retirement is a new and exciting chapter in your relationship — one filled with opportunities to grow together and create the life you’ve dreamed of. By planning as a team, you can step into retirement with confidence, clarity and excitement for the years ahead.
So start the conversation today and take the first step toward a fulfilling retirement — together.
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In March 2010, Andrew Rosen joined Diversified, bringing with him nine years of financial industry experience. As a financial planner, Andrew forges lifelong relationships with clients, coaching them through all stages of life. He has obtained his Series 6, 7 and 63, along with property/casualty and health/life insurance licenses. Andrew consistently delivers high-level, concierge service to all clients.
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