Preparing for an Inheritance: Don't Let Your Blessing Become a Curse
A few practical steps, such as establishing your financial independence and asking questions, can help you avoid inheritance pitfalls.
Many people look forward to an inheritance — it can provide financial security, opportunities for education and the ability to pursue passions. But there’s a lesser-known, darker side to inheritance: It can be both a blessing and a curse. The benefits are clear, but they also come with significant pitfalls. One can mitigate these risks by taking a few practical steps.
An inheritance can be squandered without proper management, and planning is key. Poorly structured and vague estate documents may lead to confusion or disputes among heirs. Choosing the wrong fiduciaries can result in mismanagement or conflicts of interest. Risky investment decisions can quickly erode the value of inherited wealth.
Family dynamics frequently complicate matters. Unequal distributions or disagreements may cause resentment, while reliance on inherited wealth can foster entitlement and diminish ambition. Inflexible trust structures create challenges. Sometimes, rigid trust provisions and distribution allowances make the inheritance more complicated than necessary.
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Life-changing opportunities
Despite these risks, an inheritance can provide life-changing opportunities. Wealth transfers can offer financial security and help improve children's and grandchildren's livelihoods. An inheritance may fund higher education and charitable endeavors and support passions, helping to preserve family values and legacies.
In addition to security, an inheritance may enrich lifestyles by enabling travel, early retirement or leisure pursuits. Thoughtful planning can optimize generational wealth, fostering family bonds and creating a lasting impact.
Before considering the impact of an inheritance on your life, consider building financial independence. Securing your financial future is empowering and prepares you for the possibility that an inheritance may not materialize as expected. Start by understanding whether your assets and cash flow sustain your lifestyle without relying on a potential wealth transfer. Delays, variability or even the absence of an inheritance may derail plans if you’re unprepared.
Bridging generations for understanding and alignment
An orderly estate is one of the best gifts to offer and receive. It starts with open communication with older family members. Although starting the conversation about your family’s intentions can be challenging, it’s likely to reduce uncertainty and anxiety for both generations. Setting expectations minimizes the likelihood of family infighting and enables the next generation to prepare.
These discussions also help plan for the potential incapacity of the older generation before it is too late. Incapacity can derail an inheritance by impacting the ability of the older generation to effectively plan and communicate.
Turning intentions into action
Consider taking a few simple steps to address common inheritance challenges. Review your parents’ or other older family members’ estate documents, such as wills and trusts, to ensure they align intentions and family needs. Clarify fiduciary roles to prevent future conflicts.
Liquidity planning is another key area. It requires working with the older generation’s advisers to ensure sufficient liquidity to transfer assets and cover any estate liabilities, debts and other expenses. Consider asset location strategies to optimize tax efficiency and reduce administrative burdens.
Explore tax and gifting strategies, such as using the annual gift tax and estate tax exclusions and deciding which assets would benefit most from a step-up in basis. Lifetime gifting, whether outright or to trusts, can reduce estate taxes while preserving heirs' access to wealth.
Balancing generational wealth transfer with immediate access for beneficiaries often involves creative solutions. Sometimes, clients implement a family LLC to help siblings divide assets when heirs prefer one asset over another, typically when there’s a family home and other liquid funds.
Financial literacy and responsibility
Financial education is key to preserving wealth across generations, and your family doesn’t have to navigate this process alone. Collaborate with your wealth manager and attorney to create a customized plan and use strategies to improve wealth transfer.
Consider equipping beneficiaries with the knowledge to manage assets responsibly. Conditional inheritance models may be a solution. Tools, such as incentive trusts, can encourage accountability and direct funds to support productive endeavors and meet the intentions of the wealth holder.
These structures tie distributions to achievements, such as completing higher education, maintaining employment and fostering financial responsibility.
Take the initiative and begin upstream planning to build financial security, establish legacies and strengthen family ties. Many inheritance issues can be avoided with proper planning. Taking proactive steps can maximize the benefits and minimize the risks of wealth transfer.
To navigate the complexities of inheritance effectively, contact your wealth manager and work with a qualified estate attorney. Together, you can develop a customized plan tailored to your family’s unique needs and circumstances.
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Mallon FitzPatrick leads Robertson Stephens’ Wealth Planning Team and delivers comprehensive wealth planning solutions for high-net-worth and ultra-high-net-worth clients. He collaborates with clients to develop a strategy that integrates tax planning, risk management, philanthropy, liquidity and balance sheet management, estate planning and investments. Ultimately, the client is provided with a cohesive wealth plan that helps increase the likelihood of experiencing good outcomes, meets their objectives and aligns with their preferences.
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