Dear Mom and Dad: Thanks

Ideally, living at home should provide a way to improve your financial well-being and lay the groundwork for future success.

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In July, more than half of young adults between the ages of 18 and 29 were living with one or both parents, the highest percentage since the Great Depression, according to Pew Research Center. While some may fear for our generation’s financial independence, there are a lot of advantages to living rent-free with Mom and Dad.

I had just graduated from college in February and was planning to move to Washington, D.C., in March when the COVID-19 outbreak put those plans on hold. Moving back home certainly wasn’t part of my post-graduation plan, but I am deeply grateful for the time I was able to spend with my family and get my finances in order.

Ideally, living at home should provide a way to improve your financial well-being and lay the groundwork for future success. A common rule of thumb for budgeting is to spend no more than 30% of your after-tax income on housing, says Michaela McDonald, a certified financial planner based in New York City. Depending on what part of the country you live in, that can be a difficult standard to meet. But if you’re able to keep your job after you move in with your parents, you’ve freed up that money to put toward other goals, such as saving for retirement and paying off debt. And depending on whether you pay rent and other expenses to your parents, you might also save on utilities, Wi-Fi and cable. Many parents throw in three square meals for free.

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Make a plan. All that passive saving is well and good, but it can also be unmotivating, so you should have concrete financial goals when you move back home. “Paying off debt is first and foremost in the order of operations when moving in with the family,” says Andrew Westlin, a certified financial planner based in Annapolis, Md. Start by taking a look at any high-interest-rate debt you may have, such as credit cards or personal loans (see Strategies to Tackle Debt). Use the money that would be going to other living expenses to pay those loans off as fast as possible. If you have student loans, make sure you’re at least making the minimum payments, Westlin says.

Don’t ignore retirement saving. If you’re working, and your employer matches 401(k) contributions, make sure you’re saving enough to get the full employer match. If you don’t have a 401(k), try to put at least something away in an IRA. If you can save just $100 a month in a retirement account, that money will grow substantially over the years. “It seems so far off, but your future self will definitely thank you,” McDonald says.

Next, start building an emergency fund. Generally, setting aside enough money to cover three to six months of expenses is a good way to establish a healthy safety net, Westlin says. That exercise can also help you set a time line: When you’ve reached your savings goal, that might be the signal that it’s time to fly the nest.

In my case, I didn’t have any debt that I needed to pay down, so I was able to begin building a financial safety net fairly quickly. I established a healthy emergency fund and started saving for retirement. After five months, I made the move to Washington, D.C. It was time to start a new chapter.

Emma Patch
Staff Writer, Kiplinger's Personal Finance

Emma Patch joined Kiplinger in 2020. She previously interned for Kiplinger's Retirement Report and before that, for a boutique investment firm in New York City. She served as editor-at-large and features editor for Middlebury College's student newspaper, The Campus. She specializes in travel, student debt and a number of other personal finance topics. Born in London, Emma grew up in Connecticut and now lives in Washington, D.C.