How Financial Advisers Can Best Help Widowed and Divorced Women

Divorce and widowhood rank among life's most stressful transitions, often thrusting individuals into navigating complex financial decisions — asset division, budgeting on a single income and long-term retirement planning — while grappling with profound emotional upheaval.

Women, in particular, confront systemic financial headwinds that compound these challenges. The gender pay gap remains significant, with women working full time earning only about 81% to 84% of what men make.

Coupled with caregiving responsibilities and more career interruptions than men, this disparity can impact their future financial landscape.

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As a financial adviser, your ability to bridge this gap during one of life's most difficult transitions can be transformative.

By approaching conversations with empathy and compassion, you can support women and help them have clarity, confidence and control of their financial futures.

Follow their lead

The first interaction in helping those facing life transitions should be to ask: How can I help you?

The emotional toll of divorce or widowhood is immense, and even small financial decisions can feel overwhelming or deeply personal.

For many, shifting accounts, selling assets or restructuring finances can feel like letting go of cherished memories.

Advisers must approach every interaction with patience, empathy and sensitivity, understanding that progress will happen in steps, and that even the smallest transitions deserve care and compassion.

It's important to take your time and encourage clients to do the same. By seeking your guidance, they've already taken a critical first step toward regaining control of their finances.

Moving deliberately and thoughtfully ensures they're approaching decisions from a place of clarity, rather than in the immediate emotional haze following the loss of a spouse.

Advising clients to proceed at a manageable pace not only supports better financial outcomes, but also reinforces their confidence and sense of control during this challenging transition.

Most clients in this position come in not knowing exactly what they need, but they usually have immediate pain points. Your ability to listen actively without overwhelming them becomes the foundation for trust.

After the initial meeting, follow-up is essential — but so is respecting their boundaries. Some clients prefer frequent touchpoints. Others need space.

A typical engagement pattern might include:

• Monthly check-ins for the first three to six months (email, phone or in person)
• Quarterly meetings in year one
• Semiannual planning reviews once stability is achieved

Encourage clients to take the time they need. There's rarely a decision so urgent that it can't wait a few weeks. The biggest gift you can offer is presence without pressure.

Building financial clarity and confidence

Everyone experiences major life transitions, and financial literacy levels can vary widely. It's critical not to assume prior knowledge — start from the basics, but present information in a way that feels empowering rather than condescending.

The goal is to frame education as a tool for independence and confidence during uncertain times.

For example, a divorcée married for more than 10 years might not realize she could be eligible for Social Security benefits based on her ex-spouse's record, even if she never worked outside the home.

Similarly, a widow might not be aware that claiming survivor benefits first could allow her own benefit to grow before switching later, creating a more strategic long-term outcome.

By addressing these often-overlooked details, financial advisers can not only help clients uncover hidden opportunities but also guide them toward decisions that bring stability, security and peace of mind during some of life's most difficult transitions.

One of the most critical components to establish early in these conversations is to create a net worth statement. It provides a starting point and clear baseline to begin assessing liquidity. In establishing liquidity, ask these questions:

• What resources are immediately available?
• What expenses are recurring?
• Which accounts are accessible now, and which might take time to settle?

A net worth statement also highlights initial risks and opportunities, whether it's debt that needs to be addressed, insurance gaps or investable assets.

Most important, it restores a sense of control; seeing finances organized on paper helps clients feel grounded and empowered.

Be the connector

As the client's adviser, you serve as a steady anchor, someone they can depend on for clarity, guidance and reassurance in the midst of uncertainty. But while your role is central, you should not be their only source of support.

True financial stability after divorce or widowhood requires a team-based approach.

• Coordinating with attorneys ensures legal protections and updated estate plans are in place
• CPAs provide critical tax guidance
• Estate planners help safeguard long-term wishes
• Social Security offices clarify benefit options

By bringing these perspectives together, you create an integrated plan that not only addresses immediate financial concerns but also positions your client for long-term security and peace of mind.

Especially in cases involving business ownership, complex estate issues or blended families, looping in a qualified legal team early can save your client money and time.

Don't overlook the emotional network. Include adult children or trusted family members in meetings if your client wants support. Being inclusive (with their consent) reinforces your role as a partner, not a gatekeeper.

Develop a checklist for your team

The widowhood process, in particular, involves an enormous list of to-dos. A comprehensive checklist can be a critical resource, as it shifts the emotional weight off their shoulders and gives them permission to breathe knowing there's a structure in place.

Some key components can include:

Administrative actions

• Work with the funeral home on arrangements
• Notify the employer of the deceased spouse
• Obtain at least 12 copies of the death certificate
• Contact the Social Security Administration (SSA) and Medicare (if not already alerted)
• Notify the financial team: CPA, attorney, executor

Asset documentation

• Organize all wills, trusts, deeds and account information
• Retrieve log-in credentials and digital assets
• Obtain the most recent two to three years of tax returns
• Compile a list of financial accounts, other assets such as real estate and business interests and liabilities to construct a comprehensive net worth statement

Account access and transition

• Open a new checking account in the client's name
• Transfer ownership of investment and bank accounts
• Cancel or reissue credit cards
• Update beneficiary designations

Social Security and government benefits

• Apply for survivor or divorced spousal Social Security benefits if appropriate
• Visit SSA offices in person when possible to ensure accuracy
• Contact the Department of Veterans Affairs or the U.S. Office of Personnel Management (OPM), if applicable

Legal and estate planning

• Review and revise estate documents: will, trust, power of attorney, living will
• File IRS Form 706 (estate tax return), if required or beneficial to elect portability of the spouse's estate exclusion

Credit and security

• Contact credit bureaus (Equifax, Experian and TransUnion) and mark a deceased spouse's file appropriately
• Cancel subscriptions, memberships and marketing lists

To help make this process more manageable, we've created a detailed, step-by-step checklist designed specifically for individuals navigating divorce or widowhood. You can access and download the resource here and use it as a practical guide to stay organized, ease decision-making and move forward with greater confidence.

As financial advisers, our job extends far beyond investment management in these moments. We become educators, counselors, advocates and, most importantly, active listeners.

Clients in transition don't need the cleverest strategy, but to be seen, heard, respected and have a sense of control. It's not just about numbers, but rebuilding a sense of security from the ground up.

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