Do’s and Don’ts Of Grandparenting

Avoid overstepping boundaries, passive-aggressive comments and outright criticism, or risk being exiled from seeing the little ones.

Ellen Miller, 71, gave her grandsons their first taste of ice cream. She didn’t think anything of it until she saw her daughter-in-law’s face drop after Miller returned home from the ice cream parlor with the boys. She immediately realized she’d stepped over the line and apologized. “If I make a mistake, I’ll tell them,” says Miller, a licensed clinical social worker in Potomac, Md., and “Nana” to five grandchildrenbetween the ages of 4 and 11.

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Katherine Reynolds Lewis is an award-winning journalist, speaker and author of The Good News About Bad Behavior: Why Kids Are Less Disciplined Than Ever – And What to Do About It. Her work has appeared in The Atlantic, Fortune, Medium, Mother Jones, The New York Times, Parents, Slate, USA Today, The Washington Post and Working Mother, among others. She's been an EWA Education Reporting Fellow, Fund for Investigative Journalism fellow and Logan Nonfiction Fellow at the Carey Institute for Global Good. Residencies include the Virginia Center for the Creative Arts and Ragdale. A Harvard physics graduate, Katherine previously worked as a national correspondent for Newhouse and Bloomberg News, covering everything from financial and media policy to the White House.