Leave Behind More Than Your Money: Communication Is Key to a Successful Legacy
Because 70% of wealthy families lose their wealth by the second generation, it's clear how important communication can be to your estate plan's success.
Estate planning often seems to get the lowest priority when people make retirement plans — if it makes the priority list at all.
Even some of the most loving and proactive parents avoid working out strategies for the smooth transfer of wealth to their family members.
It makes sense. No one likes to think about their own death, and the decisions that must be made can seem daunting. Unfortunately, for those who delay, there may be ramifications — at least for their loved ones.
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Procrastination almost always has consequences. If you put off doing your laundry, you'll run out of clothes to wear. If you put off going to the gas station, your car won't run. Those are your problems, for you to handle.
If you delay deciding who gets what when you die, it's your heirs — not you — who will be left to deal with the paperwork and the issues that are bound to crop up.
It isn't a pleasant task at any time, but especially not when people are in mourning.
When I give workshops, I usually ask how many participants have been involved in settling an estate. Typically, about half raise their hands. Then I ask how many enjoyed the experience. Every hand goes down.
Instead of a peaceful transition — what most people surely hope for — all too often the process creates discord among family and friends. And the financial consequences can be challenging.
After speaking with thousands of high-net-worth families and business owners over a number of years, The Williams Group family wealth consultancy found that 70% of wealthy families lost their wealth by the second generation, and 90% had lost it by the third generation.
Which explains why nearly every country and culture has some version of the rather cynical saying, "Shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations."
What goes wrong? Using its data, The Williams Group found three main causes of wealth-transfer failure:
- Trust and communication breakdown within the family: 60%
- Inadequately prepared heirs: 25%
- All other causes (tax, legal, etc.): 15%
These figures show that estate planning tools and the advisers who use them usually aren't the problem. It's more about what's happening within the family — the connections and conversations they have.
So, how can families fix these problems? Start by focusing on three areas:
1. Work on relationships and reconciliation
Make relationships with your adult children a priority. Don't skip over Generation 2 (your kids) to Generation 3 (your grandkids).
If you aren't getting along, work on it. Set an example and take the lead in healing any fractures to your family bonds.
This will make communication much easier for everyone and help avoid hard feelings now and when you're gone.
2. Capture your story
Be intentional about the values you hold dear and share how those values trace back to your history.
Many young people today think they can get everything they need to know from Google, not from Grandpa and Grandma. With that in mind, it's no wonder so many grandparents want to spend all their time at the golf course or on a cruise.
Retirees have a vast reservoir of wisdom and know-how. Don't wait to be invited — pass it on to the ones you love.
3. Share your plan with your heirs
In movies and novels, there's always that big moment when the family gathers for the reading of the will. There's usually a winner and a loser — and a battle. That's fiction and a recipe for failure.
You don't have to disclose the exact dollars and cents involved in your legacy plan, but you should share the details of who, what and where.
Misguided expectations about valued items or inherited funds can lead to bitterness and even lawsuits. Make it a goal to keep that from happening.
Clearly, there's more to estate planning than signing and filing the proper documents. The good news is, you don't need to go it alone when you're putting together the particulars of your plan.
A financial adviser who specializes in retirement is in a unique position to help you accomplish your legacy goals within your overall financial plan.
He or she can help you coordinate with your attorney or CPA to make sure your wealth transfer goes smoothly.
And, because things can get complicated, your loved ones may be included in any conversations you wish.
Just don't put it off until it's too late. Your wealth transfer should be a blessing, not a burden.
Kim Franke-Folstad contributed to this article.
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