Some retirees work part time or take a class to maintain social connections. Getty Images By Janet Bodnar, Editor-at-Large May 9, 2019From Kiplinger’s Personal Finance Of all the letters I have received as author of this column—and I am fortunate to get a ton of them—two of the most sobering came from a couple of readers who are single. “Publications and websites talk to their readers as if they are always married,” writes Vic Linares. “Never do articles address retirees who are single and how they cope.” John Scholtz observes that “you may be taking away a huge part of your social life when you retire. Keeping in touch with former workmates will endure for only one coffee off-campus.” SEE ALSO: Planning for Retirement as a Single Person Mr. Linares and Mr. Scholtz, you may be solo, but you are not alone. In a study by Age Wave and Bank of America Merrill Lynch, preretirees said that what they expect to miss most when they leave work is a reliable income. But what retirees actually miss most are their social connections. That’s not surprising, says Ken Dychtwald, CEO of Age Wave. “You’re at the peak of your career, answering phone calls and e-mail, going to meetings,” he says. “Suddenly, all that stimulation is gone.” Without a spouse or other family members on the scene, it can be an even bigger shock. Being alone also raises financial and legal issues. “With single folks, the most important thing is to have appropriate powers of attorney in case you become incapacitated,” says Ali Hutchinson, senior vice president of private wealth management at Brown Brothers Harriman. With no spouse or partner as backup, you’re more likely to need long-term care from outside sources or to face estate-planning issues, says Hutchinson. Advertisement Retiring alone has its pros as well as cons. “You get to do what you want without having to negotiate with anyone,” says Dychtwald (see Living in Retirement). “There’s an aloneness but also freedom.” He cites his brother Alan, 72, who never married, gave up his job and moved to Florida to care for their mother. Alan had played the drums as a teenager, and when their mother passed away, Ken gave him a gift of 10 lessons at a drum school. Now Alan is in one band and manages another, and “I’ve never seen him happier,” says Dychtwald. Social connections. Dychtwald predicts that more singles will form “families of friends.” In the Age Wave study, single retirees said the leisure experiences they value most are with friends. “You’re going to see women traveling together or men who play golf together,” says Dychtwald. There’s no one prescription for coping with being alone. For some people, the answer is to go back to work, at least part-time. The number of older Americans in the workforce has been rising, and respondents in the Age Wave study said social connections are a key reason for working in retirement—more important than earning money. For others, the answer is to try something completely different. “I started taking classes in a new field purely for the pleasure of learning and ended up earning a master’s degree in that field,” writes reader Julia Brown. Another reader writes, “I took up pickleball and immediately became addicted. It proved to be a lot of fun, expanded my social contacts and was great cardio to boot.” Rob Jennings created his own small network of “retired guy friends.” Advertisement If I had to sum up all the advice from Kiplinger’s readers, it would be to be proactive. “What I realized is you have to make things happen,” says Deb Russell. “They will not come knocking on your door.” Writes another reader, “I think the best approach is to help others. Too much thinking about yourself is counter-productive.” After retiring, Graten Beavers traveled the world. But hope still springs eternal. “I want to do a lot more with that elusive significant other whenever she appears,” he says. SEE ALSO: 50 Best Places to Retire in the U.S. 2018 If you’re single, how have you coped with being alone in retirement? I’ll be happy to share your experiences.