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Young, Prosperous and Frugal

What you can learn from millionaires on a budget.

By Erin Burt, Contributing Editor, Kiplinger.com

June 19, 2008
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Rik Wehbring, 37, lives on $50,000 a year in San Francisco.

That's quite a feat in itself, considering the Bay Area has one of the highest costs of living in the country. However, that's not what makes his situation so impressive: Wehbring is a millionaire.

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I read about Wehbring in a recent Associated Press article. He's frugal by choice. He doesn't own a TV, drives a gas-thrifty Toyota Prius, and listens to music on his $20 MP3 player. In the AP story, he states matter-of-factly, "I don't need a lot of material possessions."

Modesty rules

Wehbring, a dot-com millionaire who made his wealth working for several Internet startups, isn't alone. In this era of conspicuous consumption, he and others like him are saying "no thanks," opting instead for a more reasonable lifestyle. The Sunday Telegraph of London has given this demographic a name -- YAWNs -- Young and Wealthy but Normal.

How refreshing! Young adults who don't believe that just because they've got it, they've gotta flaunt it. Think of them as the anti-Paris Hilton.

For public entertainment value, this group elicits, well, yawns. They prefer to live quietly outside the spotlight (Wehbring declined my request for an interview). They use their money for good causes instead of for their own glory. Many are also environmentally conscious. They eschew excess and embrace modesty.

The idea of being wealthy, frugal and socially aware certainly isn't new. Take investing mogul Warren Buffett, for example. The 77-year-old is one of the wealthiest people in the world, with a net worth estimated around $57 billion. Yet this is a man who still lives in the same modest house he bought 50 years ago in Omaha, Neb., for $31,500. He's also giving the bulk of his wealth to charity. Or consider Bill Gates, 52, who dresses like a research student and also gives away most of his money.

Today's crop of young-and-wealthy normals is particularly inspiring, though, because those of us in our twenties and thirties are generally known for being materialistic and irresponsible with money. We're obsessed with wealth, luxury and ourselves. So if these millionaires think they need to be mindful of their money, shouldn't we?

Financial values

We can all learn something from the YAWN philosophy, even if we're missing the "wealthy" part now. In fact, adjusting your money mindset may actually be your ticket to getting that "W." Here are three tenets to live by, no matter your financial status:

1. Live below your means. In other words, don't spend money you don't have. This sounds like a no-brainer, yet many of us have a hard time putting it into practice, no matter how much money we have. (Remember Mike Tyson's infamous multimillion-dollar bankruptcy?)

Be a good steward of your money. Don't rely on credit cards and invest wisely. The wealthy know that it's much better to earn interest for themselves than to pay interest to someone else. That's the key to getting ahead -- and staying there. Creating a budget can help you get your finances on track. It'll allow you see where your money's going and how you can manage your expenses to live within your income.


2. Remember that stuff does not define self worth. It's cliché but true. Money can't buy you love or happiness.

I suspect that YAWNs, like anyone else, find fulfillment in personal relationships and social causes because those are things that last. Why waste time, energy and money trying to impress with designer clothes, fancy cars and palatial mansions? Those are merely distractions. It's the things that money cannot buy that best define your life. (See Lessons I've Learned from Being Broke.)

Ray Sidney, 38, a former software engineer at Google, made bank when the company went public in 2004. Instead of living it up, he quietly retired to Stateline, Nev. He says he probably doesn't qualify as frugal -- he owns two planes to shuttle between home and the Bay Area -- "but I could certainly live a more fancy-pants life than I do."

With his means there's a lot of temptation to buy buy buy. But the habits he learned years ago as a cash-strapped student are well-ingrained. "I only buy things I know I'll use. Why buy something to just sit there and take up space?"


3. Give back. Many young adults aspire to leave the world a better place than they found it. And those with considerable wealth are having an awakening. "You start to realize, what's the point of spending money when you can think of so many better ways to use it?" says Sidney, who has helped fund a high school football field and helped pay for a new local arts center, among other donations. With his latest pet project, he's aiming to do something for Mother Earth -- he's building an affordable, eco-friendly housing development in Nevada.

Feeling generous but strapped for cash? You may not have the bankroll of millionaires, but you have just as much time in a day as they do. Give of yourself, if not of your wallet. (See A Dozen Creative Donations for more no- or low-cash ways you can give to charity.)

Whatever your financial situation, being charitable and socially conscious can be rewarding -- not to mention it's good karma. I like how Knight Kiplinger, editor-in-chief of this Web site, puts it: "Your own financial security depends far more than you may think on the financial, physical and spiritual health of others in your community, our nation, our world. When you share your good fortune by donating your money, time and talent to charity, you help create a stronger economy and a healthier, safer world."


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Reader Comments (21)

Posted by: sam at 06/19/2008 11:12:21 AM

I would have enjoyed the article more if you had explained the details---what does he do for 1) entaintment, 2) insurance costs, 3) vacation, 4) especially food, taxes, etc. WHY I'm 66, single, debt free, a real penny pincher with no socail life, living in a lower cost city sun belt city-- and have a solid portfolio of 1M plus SS. Medicare covers medical. I'm stretched every month, especially with taxes. I'm having to rent out my basment. to increase my cash flow. I carefully write down every penny I spend, and use financial programs to plan. I'm doing everything by the rules, so how do other people cope? Go into debt? I know that I'm better off than 95% of the US population stastically, but its not working at my level---which means there are a lot of people who are going to face much worse financial times, which will impact my invstments and my cash flow.

Posted by: avowed cheapskate at 06/19/2008 11:16:42 AM

what a refreshing article especially in this era of "peak everything". i also can afford the mc mansion and lexus, but prefer to live in a 1950s era brick ranch i rehabbed myself and drive a 60 mpg honda insight hybrid. i also ride an electric bike weather permitting. i feel much happier than when i lived in my last home which was over 4000 sq ft on two acres. too many possessions seemed to drag me down and did not make me one bit happier. also living simply can put less strain on our environment. do you really need the jet skis polluting our lakes with oil and noise? do you need a large riding mower to mow two acres of worthless grass? why not take a bike to the store and enjoy the weather and get a little exercise instead of sitting in your gas guzzling steel and glass box suv or van? try some of these things and i can almost guarantee you won't look back.

Posted by: Jennifer at 06/19/2008 12:42:14 PM

"...those of us in our twenties and thirties are generally known for being materialistic and irresponsible with money. We're obsessed with wealth, luxury and ourselves." Says who? I'm 35 and nowhere wealthy enough to be considered a YAWN but I don't think that description fits my generation at all.

Posted by: Eric at 06/19/2008 02:07:48 PM

Yes, the Xers are taking the world back from the greedy, self absorbed Baby Boomers who almost ruined it. Truly the worst generation ever.

Posted by: Rippleyaliens at 06/19/2008 02:16:05 PM

Myself am a 37yr old network engineer. I make 70k a year (modest), yet as of late i have fell in love with a movie called Fight Club. I now live like that. (mentally that is). No excess spending on things that will do me no good in the future. Instead of paying Rent (someone elses mortgage, i am staying with mom), to pay off her mortgage. Living frugally is cool, yet rewarding. For after 18 years of working, i have -0- to show for.. last 3 years, investing in my children, schools.. projects , and i feel much better. loosing weight, better outlook on life. Living below my means, = money for rainy days, money for things that i would have not even considered during my splurge days. I look forward to retirement.... watch the grandkids (5-8 yrs from now) grow up. teach the lesson of self fulfillment versus show off and the game (keeping up with the jone's)

Posted by: Russ at 06/19/2008 04:21:19 PM

Sam: You've got a million bucks, plus SS. How much does your million bring in gross a year? $65 to 80 thou? SS is probably another $20 thou, plus. What are you doing with your net income? I'm 60, married, $500 thou investments. Live in a small home in a warm winter climate state. Paid for. Have a 5-year-old motor home, paid for, that we travel in for the summer months. Paying $300 a month for a 206 Honda CRV. Other than that, debt-free. Have traveled to 36 states in the last 6 years. Too many fabulous places, and wonderful folks, to count. We have money left over. Your post reads like you are obsessing over money..You have plenty. More than plenty...Trust us, Sam: we would instantly trade all our financial assets for yours. Then, we'd have even more fun than we do now. You're 66. With all the stress and unhappiness you describe, you'll make it to maybe 75. Then someone else will get a million or so from your estate. When you are dead, it won't make you feel any better. Lighten up. Loosen up. Stop obsessing. Have fun. You'll have so much enjoyment, for so many more years. STOP RENTING OUT YOUR BASEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted by: Mark at 06/19/2008 10:39:01 PM

Yes...it is refreshing to hear about the new frontier in lifestyles which sound terribly Calvinistic retro. May I play? Please? Let me play too?

Posted by: louis at 06/19/2008 11:51:11 PM

of course your generation is obsessed with money. so is every generation. its human nature to want to be in control. you can finance narcissism only until your money runs out. if it werent so we wouldn't have websites like these dedicated to giving financial advice. its only when we realize that money does not satisfy that we start looking for substance. hopefully more people will learn from the wisdom of others (and at younger ages) and invest their time in things that will last, like helping others. good article.

Posted by: Tim at 06/20/2008 12:40:39 PM

Im 22 and...part of the young materialistic generation. This article talked about exactly what I've been reflecting on. I just graduated college and decided to pack my stuff, take advantage of being a dual citizen and moved to Paris. Now I don't even use my degree and enjoy work as a bartender. I go to work and get paid for doing something I love and meet plenty of people. Have a small apartment, no car I walk to work and use the metro and I've never felt happier. I plan to stay here for a year or so then visit another place and experience new people and a new environment...One shouldn't work so they can get the new phone or the new car. Work should be something you enjoy not just for the money...If you think positve, good things will just fall in your lap. Trust me I never thought it could be this easy. I hope to ...open the minds of more people.

Posted by: Rocco at 06/20/2008 01:03:18 PM

I am an X-er and have some issues with the Boomers but give them credit, they created the largest economic expansion in our history and created the wealth and economic freedom that allows us and the Y-ers to whine. Now it they would just retire...

Posted by: Kunster at 06/21/2008 02:26:47 AM

You can own some stuff, or your stuff can own you. This is called "affluenzia", and you can learn about it on YouTube. You can blame Affluenzia on the advertising blitz that makes one feel insecure unless they buy something and then feel happy.

Posted by: Carrie at 06/21/2008 05:07:17 PM

Thanks for the article. It's refreshing to see evidence of the group that is so often away from the spotlight. Too often, we are led to believe that everyone is on a spending spree.

Posted by: Lena at 06/23/2008 03:11:27 PM

Yes, good idea, save, save, save and then die. When are these people planning to have fun? When they are 80?

Posted by: rigo at 06/25/2008 06:46:02 PM

Lena, the fun for them is helping other people. think about it.

Posted by: Katrina at 06/26/2008 11:27:53 AM

I love this article. Even though I do not have the "W" I find this inspiring.

Posted by: Amy at 06/26/2008 09:26:11 PM

When you don't have much cash, you learn to be creative in finding ways to have fun. I am very grateful that my parents were frugal because I became very resourceful. I made my own dollhouses, designed my own clothes, etc. If you live in a big city, there are a lot of fun things to do that are FREE. I too don't own a TV, drive a 10-year old Honda Accord and take the train to work. I love living simply because it's less stressful.

Posted by: Grad Girl at 06/26/2008 10:07:52 PM

That's fantastic. Imagine what the world could look like in 50 years if an entire generation chose to live this way.

Posted by: alex at 07/03/2008 10:07:45 PM

i loved the first 3rd of this article...didn't read the rest.

Posted by: Thomas Leavitt at 07/11/2008 12:46:49 PM

You might've mentioned the studies that show that once you're making a certain bare minimum, everything above that is essentially gravy and doesn't affect how happpy you are... whether you make $50k, $100k, or $250k doesn't make much of a difference. I've gone from rags to riches to rags again, back to a comfortable middle class living (and I'm only 36) and how much money I've had has never made much of a difference on a day to day basis. That said, travel is an expense that I'd like to find some space for in my budget, and if your time has any value in terms of earning power, there's really no way to be frugal about getting halfway across the country and back to visit relatives, let alone Europe or Asia. Especially with the cost of oil being what it is now. I've missed being able to see my cousin's kids grow up, and I'm married to a Swede but haven't been to Sweden since I married her, and that's something I regret.

Posted by: Alex2 at 08/10/2008 09:59:09 AM

I am much like a YAWN, I invest 98% of my income. I just graduated college within the last two years and put all of my money into stock investments. I enjoy not "wasting" money and just jogging, playing sports, and drinking only water. I eat bread, cereal, and fruit only. I don't pay for shelter, I just bum off friends/family. :) It's a good life, very happy and having lots of fun!

Posted by: vic at 08/25/2008 03:17:13 PM

i make $7,2000 a year after tax and still struggle. i buy a lot of stuff i dont use most of the time. I m single liv alone in a 1 bedroom apartment..well, I enjoy what I do.though i m not saving as much as I really can I m happy. This article made me rethink again..hope I try to change



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