What we can all learn from Anna Nicole Smith's messy departure. By Jane Bennett Clark, Senior Editor June 30, 2007 Now that Anna Nicole Smith's former lover, Larry Birkhead, has taken home their infant daughter, Dannielynn, you can expect the legal disputes surrounding Smith's death to melt away like snow in the Bahamas. Joke, people. In fact, Smith left behind enough questions and competing interests to keep the lawyers wrangling into the next decade. The Playboy centerfold and widow of oil tycoon J. Howard Marshall II died in February at age 39 of a drug overdose, leaving her baby, three would-be Dannielynn daddies and a years-long lawsuit for a share of her late husband's fortune. DNA tests showed Birkhead, a photographer, to be Dannielynn's father. Howard K. Stern, another paternity contender, was named executor of Smith's will. Smith's mother has battled Birkhead for guardianship rights. Smith's son and only beneficiary, Daniel, died of a drug overdose a few months before Smith did. What can we learn from all this drama? If you must live a messy life, clean up your legal and financial affairs before you depart it. Here are five tips for tidying up your estate so that others don't have to. Advertisement Plan for contingencies. Smith's will, written in 2001, left whatever property she had in trust for her son. It specifically excluded unknown children, a provision that's more commonly used by men against claims by heirs they don't know about. Had Daniel not died before Smith, Dannielynn would have been out in the cold -- a development Smith presumably did not intend, says Joanna Grossman, a law professor at Hofstra University. "She was probably just thinking of her one son and wanted him to have everything." Instead, his death caused the will to lapse. With no will, state intestacy law makes Dannielynn the sole heir. Tortured as those circumstances sound, they demonstrate a failure on the part of Smith's will to clarify her wishes and prepare for contingencies, which is, after all, the whole point of estate planning. You can avoid similar complications by building in flexibility -- including naming alternative beneficiaries and stating your intentions toward unborn children -- and revising the will as needed to include specifics, such as a new child's name. Appoint a guardian. Once the DNA results were in, Birkhead had a big leg up in his custody dispute. It's generally the biological or adoptive parent who gets custody of the kids if the other parent dies. Still, you should name a guardian in your will in case the other parent isn't available or you both die about the same time. Think that can't happen to two relatively young people in the same family? Look at Smith and her son. Advertisement If you're convinced that the other parent is unfit for custody, name another guardian, outline your reasoning, and hope the court agrees. Simply saying you prefer someone else doesn't cut it, says Grossman: "If you have a real, live parent with legal rights, your preference is not going to trump that." Because Birkhead passed both the DNA and fitness tests, says Grossman, "there's no justification for taking the child away." Design your own funeral. Sure, you could let your next of kin argue over the arrangements. Smith's mother, for instance, wanted to bury her in the family plot in Texas. Instead, Dannielynn was awarded custody of the body, and Richard C. Milstein, Dannielynn's representative, had Smith buried in the Bahamas. You can avoid the bickering by putting your funeral instructions in writing, preferably in a living will, which is more readily available to survivors than a regular will, says Martin Shenkman, an estate-planning lawyer in Teaneck, N.J. Have a lawyer write or review the document to make sure the terms are legally enforceable, and put the same instructions in your testamentary will, giving your executor the authority to cover funeral expenses out of the estate. Legalize your love. Getting married for estate-planning purposes hardly constitutes a Hallmark moment, but it does entitle your surviving spouse to half the property you acquire during your marriage or to a significant share of your estate, depending on where you legally reside. You can't easily override those rights, in a will or otherwise, although your spouse can waive them. For Stern, a wedding would have meant inheriting some or all of Smith's estate; as the boyfriend, he gets zip. Advertisement What if you're in a same-sex partnership? A number of states accord domestic partners some or all of the same protections as married couples; Massachusetts recognizes same-sex marriages. No matter what your state or status, you can always name a loved one as beneficiary in your will. Tie up loose ends. Ironically, Stern could still be appointed executor of Smith's estate, in which case he will have to pursue Marshall's millions on behalf of Dannielynn and, by extension, Birkhead, his one-time rival. Before you start enjoying that soap opera, make sure your own legal arrangements avoid potential conflicts. "It's not only Hollywood types who have these issues," says Shenkman. "A lot of people have messy personal lives."